When you blame your partner for doing something wrong, do your accusations come from your own guilt? The guilt that maybe you are the one carrying the shame and don't want to end up being in the wrong. Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at http://bit.ly/WomenofIMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact So it's easier to blame even if the blame is misplaced. Now to everyone's defense, most of us do not realize we are doing this. But if we were to break down certain conversations and situations, we would discover that we do it more often; accusing your spouse out of your own guilt. The key is first acknowledging if you are doing just that. Part of the stress and mismanagement in our marriage was how my husband saw work and how I viewed it. He viewed the day starts with a shower and then you are up and moving accordingly. However, my typical day when the children were younger was staying up late to handle the household responsibilities, getting up in the middle of the night, then homeschooling during the day. Usually he came home to more of a mess than the organized home he thought it should be. Fast forward to today. When he makes a comment about needing something done or him doing it himself, I immediately go back to not being good enough in his eyes.  A playful comment on "How was your day today?", puts me on the defensive if I think he is surmising that I haven't done anything today. It's my guilt. He is just trying to inquire about my day with no blame. But I take it all the wrong way. Do you ever find yourself in this position? Defending your own guilt with false accusations. You might need a little time to wrestle with that question. So assume that you have been in this position, what can one do? The K.I.S.S. ~ Forgive yourself first to move toward your new goal! Forgiveness is imperative in any relationship, especially the one with yourself. But definitely with your spouse too.  How do you forgive yourself to move toward your new goal?
- Accept the past action/situation for what it was. Don't over exaggerate one way or the other.
- Listen precisely to what your spouse is saying now. Don't put words in his mouth that reflect the past. 
- Clarify any miscommunication with follow-up questions. If you are really concerned about his position, ASK!
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